Let’s make a pact and NOT go back to normal. Maybe normal was a form of a collective sleep.Maybe normal was a form of hiding our true feelings from each other. Maybe, we are meant to stay fully awake. I invite you to join me in a new mission: to be more OPEN, more AVAILABLE, and more HONEST with yourself […]
Self-Love Challenge
I invite you to experiment with something new this month that nourishes your heart: write yourself a love letter, have a dance party with yourself, buy yourself a bouquet of beautiful flowers, treat yourself to a special dinner or devote a whole day (or even just an hour) to YOU! That’s right – give yourself permission to feel […]
Give Yourself a GIFT – Boundaries for Christmas
‘Tis the season for family, reflection and beautiful star-lit silent nights. ‘Tis also the season to reassess what has value for you. What is working in your life?What feels stagnant and stuck?Are you excited about your life?What do you want to change? When we review, we also come to some conclusions which may cause a family upset […]
The Lesson of Saying “No”- Self-Respect Practice
It was a new concept for me as a “people-pleaser” (and a silent resentment holder) in my early 30s when a friend said, “You know, you don’t have to apologize for saying no.” First, there was the realization that I was apologizing for the littlest thing when I didn’t even realize it. Second, there was […]
Leading with Relief
Ways to soothe an upset child work for adults too While riding the ferry in Sydney harbor with my granddaughter, her father and my husband, all was going fine until a moment of fear on a young child’s face, unmistakably echoed by her words, “Where’s my daddy?” It was only a 2-minute absence – her […]
Creating a RELATIONSHIP VISION
Note: This exercise is for couples, but can also be adapted for families and individuals. 1) Sit quietly and consider the following questions: What is great about your relationship? What needs improvement? What do you long for? What do you know about your partner’s needs? About your needs? What things do YOU do […]
The Imago Dialogue
The Imago Dialogue is the central tool used in Imago Relationship Therapy and is described fully in the best selling book “Getting the Love You Want” by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. The Imago process involves learning new skills, changing hurtful behavior, identifying defenses and frustrations to provide the space for a deeper level of trust to […]
Saying YES to the “In-Between”
When my husband Michael and I were in our first year of dating he brought up the subject of marriage. My reaction was quick and succinct: “I have an allergy to marriage so please don’t bring it up again.” Luckily for the both of us, he listened to that advice and we proceeded onward while […]
