I invite you to experiment with something new this month that nourishes your heart: write yourself a love letter, have a dance party with yourself, buy yourself a bouquet of beautiful flowers, treat yourself to a special dinner or devote a whole day (or even just an hour) to YOU! That’s right – give yourself permission to feel the love!
By the way, did you know 2020 is a leap year? That means you have 29 glorious days this month to shower yourself with kindness and celebrate how truly awesome you are!
So, this month I want you to start thinking about yourself. Really take yourself into consideration with every decision and every thought. What do you need? What in this moment are you creating that sends your mind messages of love? Look in the mirror and say to yourself,
“I love you.”
It’s a beautiful practice to stand and face yourself and witness all the pieces that create you. Think about all the minute aspects that aligned to create you and bring you to this very moment in time! By showing up for yourself in all your raw and real truth, you can begin to make friends with yourself and forgive any part of you that you have disowned, hurt or shamed.
And I promise, it’s really not cheesy like the movies want you to believe.
So what if maybe along the way and through the path of your life you’ve told yourself a story or two that hasn’t been so compassionate or gentle?
Yep, we all do it and whether you are in a partnership or not, it can be so easy to get caught in the trap of those limiting stories about ourselves and those around us. We often get attached to judgments and beliefs that keep us from actualizing the love we so deserve and desire. And none of it is ever really true. Let’s check in to see if any of these messages sound familiar to you:
“I’m still single, so I must be unlovable.”
“I am nothing without a partner.”
“She’s never been divorced twice.”
“If I could be like so and so, then I would be loved.”
“I’m worthless because all my friends are married.”
“I am no one without her / him.”
“I don’t deserve him / her.”
“Maybe they will love me when I lose weight.”
Whew… another deep breath. Feel your heart. Those stories feel so heavy. And they simply are not true. Not a single one. If any of those stories have felt true for you, can you give yourself some understanding, compassion and gentleness to release these painful thoughts and set yourself free?
Would you ever say any of those things to a friend or someone you care about? Probably not. So, why would you ever send yourself those hurtful messages?
You are loved and lovable right now.
You are worthy of love whether you are in a relationship or not. Your worth is not dependent on another person and exists all the time as part of your true essence. Nothing you do, no behavior can change this.
Giving yourself loving words and friendly thoughts is not a selfish act. In fact, when we begin to value ourselves, those around us will also benefit. You can lead the way so others will learn how to truly love themselves too!
I love the idea of cutting out 29 hearts, one for each day of the month, then writing a special love note to myself each day. This can be a fun practice and doesn’t take much time. You can even send yourself text message love notes if you’re not feeling crafty. This is also a fun practice for families and partners to do together!
Thinking of your value, how strong you are, the courage you embody, the special gifts you share – these are the small, meaningful moments that spark your inner love-fest! There are so many aspects that beautifully aligned for you to be YOU in this moment right here and now. It’s time to embrace all of your YOU-ness.