Let’s make a pact and NOT go back to normal.
Maybe normal was a form of a collective sleep.
Maybe normal was a form of hiding our true feelings from each other.
Maybe, we are meant to stay fully awake.
I invite you to join me in a new mission: to be more OPEN, more AVAILABLE, and more HONEST with yourself and those around you.
A friend called the other day and said, “I thought about reaching out earlier during this pandemic but I didn’t want to burden you with my stuff.”
I said to him, “That’s so interesting, I’ve been judging myself for not reaching out more to my friends and family. But have also realized, wait – others have not been reaching out to me either.”
In that space, we both realized we were operating from an old story: Make sure you hide yourself when you’re not okay. You shouldn’t burden others.
Even though back in March (remember March?!) my newsletter touched a powerful chord with many people:
“Let’s RE-WRITE YOUR INNER STORY.
Let’s unburden you from old crap that limits you,”
Most of us have an outdated story running in the background that can cause us to act or think in ways we’d really prefer not to.
My friend and I realized that we’d both been operating from an old story:
“DON’T BUM PEOPLE OUT. BE HAPPY. KEEP THAT SHIT TO YOURSELF.”
Last week I was suffering with the news that a dear friend was in ill health. I was holding this knowledge inside and I was a wreck. It wasn’t until I told a few friends about my pain and sorrow that I suddenly received a huge gift.
The gift of letting others hear me and help me.
By sharing my pain, I was suddenly freed up inside. The burden of holding something so big and painful inside shifted dramatically. Friends came to my aid. They showed up for me — helped me feel less alone.
Though it may seem scary or vulnerable to not play life from an old story, I received the gift of naming my sorrow and then felt more adaptable, flexible and ALIVE because of it.
Wherever there is something to clean up or clear up, places I may suffer from fear, I am noticing more stretch inside. More room to be real with myself and with others.
It takes a pandemic – a huge external and global panic and loss of control moment – to become more aligned and deeply connected within myself to the power of being REAL.
We humans are incredibly adaptable!
Even with extreme unknowns and uncertainty, sometimes adrift in unfamiliar circumstances where emotional doorways are being thrown open without our permission, the human mind and spirit are adapting.
In the midst of a huge storm, the urge is to turn the other way and RUN!
Instead, I am seeing myself, my friends and community face it. Going through it.
We ARE CHANGING!
Normal has been to deny our pain. Deny the storm. Normal has been to turn away from the opportunity of growth or deny pain and our needs. To deny that the storm exists would be postponing the opportunity for your own growth.
Growth, change, upsets and transitions are where we realize we have a gift, a resource, a skill and a community that perhaps we never quite recognized.
To recognize it and then share it – that is being awake and fully alive.
What kind of person do you want to be in the coming times?
These unknown and dramatic times are going to continue to arrive — many storms of change are coming.
Will you join me in a NEW STORY?
The story that says: I will not hide myself. I will continue to lean into myself and my friends and family. I will mend what needs mending. And open to more of myself.
Will you stay awake with me?
And dream of a world where we are intentionally shifting the outer and inner stories?
Let’s make a pact. Let’s not go back to sleep.