Frequently Asked Questions
Yes, I work with individuals. I like to say I specialize in people.
My training and passion has been couples therapy but I love working with individuals too.
For now, stop trying to get your partner to do anything. You know what it’s like to be pushed or repeatedly asked to do something. Chances are your partner feels defensive or feels like your nagging. Turn your focus inward instead. When you begin to work on you and your partner notices (and feels) a difference — they are more likely to want to join you. It’s actually a common side effect of one person changing–the other person is more responsive because you took the first step.
Sending positive statements and appreciations to your partner instead of criticizing them or the relationship can make a big difference. If your partner is still resistant, he or she may need individual guidance before beginning couples work.
Yes. I will definitely assist in your movement beyond fear and the mind-talk that may keep you in a repeat loop of distrust. It’s my honor to help you trust and love yourself, and in the process–your partner.
I provide many forms of guidance on this very topic.
It all depends on what you’re working towards and your commitment level. I find that some people know exactly what change they’d like to have in their life. In that case we focus right in and get to work. But that doesn’t mean I know how many sessions you’ll need. Everyone is different. Different pace, different goal, different life. Sometimes we head toward the goal and find a detour that really needs looking at. Sometimes, couples for instance, come to learn the Imago Dialogue but find out there are other dynamics in the relationship that want some exploration. And still others need a check in every other week as they progress through life.
My “RATES” page is filled with information about my hourly rates for individuals, couples and RRT sessions.
Great question. I may want to see how you fight because it tells me where to go, what to focus on first. But I promise I won’t allow it to last long. Why would I want you to feel harmed? Counseling should be therapeutic and I will always get right in the trenches with you and lead you out of them as fast as possible. The tool that’s most effective for this is the Imago Dialogue. The structure was designed to keep couples from unnecessary cycles of arguing and blame. You’ll learn the structure and practice it at home so that you fight less and less.
Fixed. Healed. Transformed. I believe it’s all possible. It’s not my job to fix it for you. But I will give you feedback along the way — especially when I see what IS WORKING between you and your partner or spouse. Often times we can’t see what’s not broken–that’s my job. I point out for you the parts of the relationship that don’t need fixing until you start seeing and feeling your strengths both individually and collectively. And know too that the problems you experience are a natural part of every relationship evolution. No two people are magically and utterly perfect. We all get a fixer-upper relationship and I’ll help you with the remodel.
I don’t want our initial meeting to feel too structured or business like. This is your life and I want to meet you human to human. However, my professional and ethical obligations still apply and I request you download, read, and fill out the forms on my NEW CLIENT page and bring with you the first or second session. I’d like you to do this on your own so that your session time isn’t used for filling out forms. That said, I need you to follow through by the 2nd session and have the paperwork completed. If not, we’ll simply do it together at the beginning of the 2nd session.
It’s never too late to look at what caused the separation (or divorce). Separation and divorce are often the last choice when you don’t understand the power struggle that led you there. I encourage couples who are separated or divorced (who can agree to come together without blaming each other in the process) to learn what happened before the cycle repeats in the next relationship. I also encourage a peaceful resolution so that you don’t carry regret, fear or guilt into the next relationship.
Conscious endings are a process with valuable information to be learned that will benefit you and the next big love in your life. Conscious endings can deepen self-awareness, eliminate blame, and minimize hurt to children and family members around you.
And, sometimes, couples come together again in a whole new relationship with their former partner once they learn the skills and the science behind conscious love relationships.